| Definition | An intense feeling of deep affection. |
Any intense desire or craving for gratification; when contrasted with love, lust usually means sexual desire. |
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| Symptoms | Faithfulness,
loyalty, confidence. Willingness to make sacrifices for another.
Working at settling differences. Able to compromise so that either both
win or at least give the other person's opinion a chance. |
Desire, passion, acquisitiveness, intense emotions. |
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| Person to Person | Commitment to another. Genuine intentions. Think about other person's feelings before acting. |
Enjoyment of a short-term, mutually pleasurable relationship. |
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| Feels like | A
deep affection, contentment, confidence. Partners communicate and
negotiate appropriate expectations. Requires a lot of selflessness and
polite assertiveness. You are loving your best friend. |
Passion, joyousness, strong desire, intense and sometimes difficult feelings of need. |
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| Result | Security, peace, a solid partnership which can provide the ideal atmosphere to raise confident, secure children. |
Unsatisfied lust
results in sexual frustration, increased religiosity and superstition,
emotional rigidity. Lust satisfied in a mutually beneficial way results
in pleasure, creativity, passion, zest for life. |
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| Effect | Contentment, stability. |
fire, drive, activeness. |
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| Interdependency | Partnership. Can lead to codependency if not tempered with self-awareness and self-guidedness. |
Often the first
stage of love, and can lead to lasting friendships, romantic or
otherwise. When not tempered with compassion and empathy, however, it can lead to emotionally damaging behavior. |
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| Time Period | It will deepen with the passage of time. |
Highly variable -- it may deepen or dissipate with the passage of time. |
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| Commitment | This feeling may continue throughout one's life. |
Temporary commitment that lasts only long enough to fulfill desire. |
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| Bottom Line | Love is unconditional and the real deal. |
Interested in only what can be done for self-pleasure; lust may develop into love, but it is lust until that time. |
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