9 Important Sex Secrets Women Really Want You To Know

TV writer/producer/author Ali Adler spent years working with straight men in various writers rooms. As a gay woman, she was able to give them unique insight on female sexuality — and decided to publish a book with some of her advice:

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Here are some of her tips:

1. “Here is the most important Vagina Golden Rule. Do not do unto it as you would have done unto you. Everything about you is very different from a woman.”

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2. “Gentle to slightly rougher, never too rough — unless she passionately screams at you to do otherwise — that’s the build. In all of this. The whole thing.”

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3. [From John Stamos]: “With women, you have to listen to their bodies. Not just listen to them say out loud, ‘That feels good, no, that doesn’t feel good,’ but listen to their actual bodies.”

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“Try stuff out. There’s a lot of other real estate besides the nipples and the vagina. A neck is a beautiful part of a woman; the ears, the belly. Be curious to see what turns her on.”

4. “You must behave as if her vagina is the greatest thing you’ve ever smelled, tasted, and had the privilege to be near. She must believe that she is letting you eat the Cinnabon that is attached to her body.”

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“So much of sex for women is mental. Sometimes women’s body insecurities or inhibitions won’t allow them to relax. Here is where you come in.”

5. “DO NOT SEND A PHOTO OF YOUR GENITALS, EVER.”

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“Your genitals are called ‘private parts’ for a reason. It just is never a good idea. Even in a moment of testosterone-fueled bad decision-making, it is as forever as the memory of Anthony Weiner’s political career.”

6. “Despite what you may think, the clitoris is nothing at all like a tiny penis. Please don’t think it is, even if, biologically, it originated from the same bundle of tissue in utero. Generally speaking, it doesn’t want hard friction.”

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“Your penis is a hunk of skin, and the whole thing is quite sensitive. But, in general, the bulk of our pleasure emanates from this one tiny zone, so it has far more nerve endings…it’s the fucking epicenter and the epicenter of fucking, so please, be respectful. Be gentle.”

7. “A kiss should most usually start soft — no tongue at first — and just like sex, it should build in intensity…your tongue is not a Mars rover; it is not an exploration device programmed to bring saliva samples back to NASA.”

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8. “Don’t fix. Just listen. This is so difficult, but it is so essential. Think of your penis not as a screwdriver, but as a microphone.”

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“Women don’t want your solutions. Yours never make sense to us. Your solutions annoy us. If you jump in and try to fix her ‘problem,’ things will heat up because she won’t feel understood. So the quickest and best advice — hard as it is to actually do — is to shut your mouth.”

9. “Never stop evaluating yourself. Don’t stop growing or changing in our ever-evolving world. Don’t be afraid to ask yourself those very tough questions.”

SOURCE - Julia Pugachevsky
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