Understanding Women's Mind Games
"Do you think I look fat in this dress?"
It's a question you dread;
you know that there's a thin margin for error here. Questions like these
can make it seem like your girlfriend, wife, really any woman in your
life is toying with your emotions. It's just as possible though that
you're just as confusing to her as she is to you. So think it through a
little bit more though, show a bit of empathy and you should come out of
even the most sticky of situations more-or-less unscathed.
5. Stand Your Ground
Here's
a conundrum. You see a girl who is wearing sexy clothing, but gets mad
at you when you check her out. This can range of course from the ironic
“Stop staring at my t*ts” t-shirts to yoga pants that blur the lines between sexy and functional.
So is this a mind game, or what? Whatever it is, don't sweat it. If you've been caught staring and she's either really mad at you or just playing with you to get a rise, either way there's no way making it into a bigger deal is really going to help. If you suspect she's playing a game, just smile at her and tell her she looks good in what she's wearing.
7. Don't Try To Be A Mind Reader
Don't
try to read her mind. Is she playing hard to get? Telling you nothing
wrong when clearly everything is? Acting like she really likes you, gets
jealous when you're with other girls, but will never take the next step?
If you're completely baffled, your friends are no help, just let her figure it out on her own. Don't react in a stupid way, don't overthink the problem. If there's something she wants you to do and you're missing out on it somehow, she will find another way to let you know.
1. Not Everything She Does Is A Mind Game
We'll
come out and say it now: if you're the type of fellow who complains all
the time about the mind
games women play, it's probably because you're
doing something wrong or just not understanding what she's trying to
say.
It's
a crazy thought, but women tend to connect differently on an emotional
level than men, and that can mean communicating in different ways as
well. So if she asks you a question like "How do I look?"
she may actually just want an honest answer. Not that women's mind
games don't come into it, but if you're going off of the assumption that
everything she does has an ulterior motive, it's not going to start,
continue, or end well.
2. Think With Your Head, Not With Your Penis
Hell, this should be standard advice in all fields, but it's pertinent here too. If you don't want to find yourself in a relationship with someone who is manipulative and playing mind games with you, think a bit first. If your junk is leading your brain on a leash, you'll be willing to suppress doubts and negative thoughts about the person you're trying to connect with just in order to get some action. This can put you into big trouble; unless the sex is totally worth the ensuing heartache, in which case, go for it!
3. Ask A Friend
Taking relationship advice normally goes something like this: you know that you're only seeing things from one perspective because you're in the relationship, so you call a friend for advice. He tells you something you don't want to hear, so naturally you completely discount his advice because hey – he's not in the relationship anyway.4. Your Brain Is Physically Different From Hers
Men's brains are shaped differently than women's — larger, but not actually smarter among other differences — and that has an impact on the way you perceive a problem. According to one study, “Men and women appear to use different parts of the brain to encode memories, sense emotions, recognize faces, solve certain problems and make decisions.” Bear that in mind and try to use a bit of empathy and understanding when making decisions.
5. Stand Your Ground
Here's
a conundrum. You see a girl who is wearing sexy clothing, but gets mad
at you when you check her out. This can range of course from the ironic
“Stop staring at my t*ts” t-shirts to yoga pants that blur the lines between sexy and functional.So is this a mind game, or what? Whatever it is, don't sweat it. If you've been caught staring and she's either really mad at you or just playing with you to get a rise, either way there's no way making it into a bigger deal is really going to help. If you suspect she's playing a game, just smile at her and tell her she looks good in what she's wearing.
6. Be Patient
She's given you her number. You've called her or sent her a text, and are waiting for her to call you back. She seemed interested, was happy to spend half the night flirting with you, and is now giving you the cold shoulder.This game is all about power. Either she's not interested in you at all, or she's playing a game where she wants you to call her first. Whatever the case, your best option is to sit back and wait. If you're showing interest in her, make her show some interest in you before pushing it any further. Just sit back, relax and wait for the phone to ring. If it doesn't? Move on.
7. Don't Try To Be A Mind Reader
This lesson in a nutshell, phrased less elegantly.
Don't
try to read her mind. Is she playing hard to get? Telling you nothing
wrong when clearly everything is? Acting like she really likes you, gets
jealous when you're with other girls, but will never take the next step?If you're completely baffled, your friends are no help, just let her figure it out on her own. Don't react in a stupid way, don't overthink the problem. If there's something she wants you to do and you're missing out on it somehow, she will find another way to let you know.
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